Ok this makes post number 3 for the day. I'm out of control. ha ha.
My step-daughter just told me that her boyfriend wants her to move in with him and his dad this summer. She hasn't told her dad yet. I told her she needs to tell him tonight because I can't keep this from him.
I may shock anyone who ends up reading this by saying I think it might be a good thing. I know she is miserable with us because she is an hour and a half away from her boyfriend, friends and other family and this boy is actually a good influence on her for the most part. I also think it would be good for her to deal with the true reality of adulthood. I told her we would not be helping financially if she moved out. As harsh as that might seem, it may just be what she needs to gain the confidence to make it on her own.
At the same time it hurts me and I know it will hurt B. For so long we have felt like just a paycheck to her mom and when the money stopped, D moved in so then we felt like just a paycheck to her. She treats us with respect and everything but just deep down it felt like, why is she moving in with us now, you know?
We love this girl so much and just want her to have a happy, healthy, successful life. Unfortunately, she is an adult now and we can't necessarily tell her what to do, more like guide and pray to God that she listens. She is not even my biological daughter but the pain sure feels like it.
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Two words: birth control. I'm just sayin. You are right--you can't tell an eighteen year-old what to do, but you don't want to end up as just a check to her child either.
Feel free to ignore the unsolicited advice.
I've never tried canning--actually, I dont' even know what canning is. I'll have to google it.
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